Okay, I meant to have a proper fashion post prepared for today, but the time kinda got away from me and so I find myself having to scramble…therefore, I am gonna pick and choose from topic ideas from Alicia Chenaux and just babble on about that!
SL Bloggers - How hard do you think it is to find a relationship in SL? Where are people meeting each other?
I think finding a relationship in SL all depends on what type of relationship you’re looking for.
If you’re looking for someone to just cyber with, that’s going to be easy. As easy as tp’ing to the right spot (and icky, but that’s only my personal opinion.)
If you’re looking for an SL relationship that transcends SL into RL, I think that will be the hardest. A lot of people in SL are playing a game, but they don’t necessarily reveal that to people. So they might be lying to you about everything they ever tell you. Scary, if you are not. If you find that person that you think you could stand forever though, hold onto it. I recently heard that a friend who I sorta kinda introduced to SL got married in April to someone she met here. So it can happen, it’s just rare. Okay, and Catero just reminded me that geography can play a pretty big role. So, then there’s that.
Of course, then there are the people who find someone they like hanging out with in SL. They have no plans to ever take it to a RL place, and don’t really communicate outside of SL either. They may partner, they may get “married” and they may or may not do the sex thing. But they enjoy each other’s company, and they are for all intents and purposes, committed to each other in the context of Second Life. This is the type of relationship I have found myself in, after a long time of deliberately not looking for it. We enjoy each other’s company, we make each other laugh and we are even going to do the wedding thing, since neither of us has ever done that and we thought it might be fun. Plus, it’s a great excuse to have a kick-ass huge party, and let’s face it, those are always fun.
I have no clue where people meet each other. In the three relationships I’ve been in in SL, none of them was a standard meet. So I am not gonna be a fount of information there, sorry.
There are many many people in SL who choose not to have any relationship here at all, and that is absolutely fine and there’s nothing wrong with that.
by Lourdes, on 06.12.08 @ 4:41 am
Like you I stumbled on to someone I like hanging out with. But have no intentions of taking it into RL. We met at the Botanical Gardens. I think its like IRL you’ll find someone when you’re really not looking.
I think people who are solely looking for something they can take outside of SL have the hardest times.
by Dove Swanson, on 06.12.08 @ 9:06 am
I happen to be in one, but really have no clue how it happened. I wasn’t looking for it …it just happened out of the blue, and it works…it works really well. I guess to answer the question in simplest form - they’re meeting in pose shops!
haha.
by Phoenix Chapman, on 06.12.08 @ 10:03 am
lol well from what you guys are saying, it’s also happening when you are not looking for it!
by TheDiva, on 06.12.08 @ 12:12 pm
I’ve had 2 relationships in SL that I consider to have been serious. The first, also my longest (9 months), was a chance meeting in a strip club. I think it was my second week in SL and we had a lot of similar interests. Turned out that we lived only a few towns apart. We eventually met up, tho we were both married and kept it friendly. We are still great friends and talk online often.
My Second was totally unexpected. I wasn’t looking, but he was interesting to me (and quite handy around the house) so we started spending all our time together. It didn’t work out, he was seeing someone else even tho he claimed to only want to be with me. *sigh*
That’s it. No more relationships for me. I do hang with a few guys still, I just find them better company then girls I guess, but no romances.
Whenever I meet a new resident I tell them to make friends, have fun, and explore…but not to get wrapped up in romance till they have been in-world for a while. It’s too easy to be fooled and get your virtual heart stomped by pixels.
by Washu, on 06.12.08 @ 11:14 pm
I just did a blog post about SL relationships lately too. I’m a poor writer so it wasn’t so great! Me and Damien were one of the first couples that met in SL that got married in RL. (And OMG it’s the longest story ever, there!) I was not looking, we just happened to meet several times via mutual friends. I think great relationships happen when you’re not looking for them.
by Zoe Demar, on 06.15.08 @ 6:52 pm
All I can say is that I went through a lot to be in the spot that I am at now, and though meeting online only as friends, he managed to sneak through every fiber of me to get into my heart completely and I couldn’t be happier. We celebrate 1 year of marriage come July and I always look back believing in the end that it was fate. I’m not one to leave things to fate, but when you put all the pieces together there really isn’t any other explination. Even when you think you’re in the right place, someone comes along and changes your life completely.
by Sascha Frangilli, on 06.20.08 @ 5:37 am
Hmmmz I have taken RL to SL.
I see my RL partner (bf sounds a bit dumb for a 39 yr old guy) only during the weekend in RL and during the week we meet up in SL where we are also partnered. A wonderful combination.
God, this makes me sound like a complete nerd. Whoooooo!